knowing my limits
The first step to simplifying your life: know your limits.
In this age of doing it all and chasing success it’s quite difficult to stand up and say: “Actually, I can’t do that right now.” But when you do you experience the most profound sense of relief and empowerment. It’s so satisfying to admit that you have limitations and you have the foresight to stick to them – for your own wellbeing.
Late last year I realised that I’m prone to taking too much on – because I feel obligated and because I want to please. Think of it as a personality trait – one that doesn’t necessarily serve me well. As the New Year dawned I promised myself that I wouldn’t agree to every single proposal I was offered (professionally and personally). Instead, I would take the time to think about what it meant for me in the scheme of things; can I fit it into my life? Will I enjoy doing this? Is this something that works with my current parenting commitments? Does it benefit me?
Some may call this mindset selfish; I’d call it sensible. After all, I’m making the decision for myself and my family – I can’t afford to be swamped, I can’t fall apart. I’m noticing a certain shift for many mothers around me; they are acknowledging that life is much more enjoyable when its simple. More of us are saying “No” and we’re reaping the benefits.
So: acknowledge your limits – it’s freeing and refreshing.